1. Honour the circle. Use
simple, appropriate procedures to mark the opening
and closing. Ask everyone to give their name.
Take time to breathe deeply. Say a prayer. Light
a candle. Have a cup of tea. Listen to music.
2. Create a collective centre.
Make a physical centre. Mutually agree upon a
topic or question that will serve as the central
focus of the meeting. Choose a specific issue
or allow for topics to surface determined by individual
3. Ask to be informed by our highest
values such as compassion and truth,
by the wisdom of the ancestors, and by the needs
of those yet to be born. You can also invoke mythical
or historica figures or ancestors who symbolize
desired values. One person can speak for the group,
or each member can do a personal invocation.
4. Express gratitude for the blessings
and teachings of life.Acknowledge and honour our interdependence
with everything in the Web of Life. In silence,
or by taking turns, give thanks for those people
and those things great and small whose gifts enrich
and nourish you.
5. Create a safe space for full participation
and deep truth-telling. Allow each person
to speak without interruption or cross-talk. Pass
the "talking stick" around the circle,
until everyone has the opportunity ot participate.
Respect the right to silence. Keep everything
confidential (unless specifically agreed otherwise).
6. Listen from the heart, and
serve as a compassionate witness for the other
people in the circle. To be an effective witness,
pay attention to what is being said without interrupting,
judging, or trying to "fix" or rescue
the person speaking. Be willing to discover something
about yourself in the stories of other people.
7. Speak from the heart and from direct
experience. When you are moved to speak,
do so thoughtfully and with care. Avoid abstract,
conceptual language, and stay in touch with your
feelings as deeply as possible. As this capacity
develops, you may be moved to share those feelings
and to say difficult things without self-judgement
and without blaming others.
8. Make room for silence to enter. During
the circle, allow for reflection, meditation,
for deep feelings to surface. Silence enhances
temenos as the group proceeds.
9. Empower each member to be a co-facilitator
of the process. If possible, designate
a different person to be the circle maker each
time. This person readies the physical setting,
initiates the opening and closing rituals, and
facilitates consensus on a topic. Encourage each
other to give voice to feelings of satisfaction
or discomfort about the group's process.
10. Commit to an ongoing relationship
with the people in your circle so as
to engender trust and caring to other people,
to the Earth and all her creatures, by practising
the capacities developed within the wisdom circle
in daily life.